4. Flowers from my dearest


2 months of loving, failing, hurting, healing and learning.


3. my feelings, in lyrics

Now I’m in uncharted water
Territory getting hotter
And I think I like it, I think I like it, ’cause
– Gia

I’ll be there if you’re the toast of the town babe
Or if you strike out and you’re crawling home
– Taylor Swift

And I will give you everything baby
But can you feel this energy? Take it
You can have the best of me baby
And I will give you anything

I was just thinkin’ ’bout you
And it made me think of colors of the space
– Brian

All you think of lately is getting underneath me
All I dream of lately is how to get you underneath me
– Sara & Tegan

2. On the Logan Paul situation

A post written & posted on my Facebook wall

photo credit


So I chanced upon the Logan Paul’s Japan suicide forest video controversy on Youtube this morning and it triggered an overwhelming rush of emotions.

The forest was a place where I had obsessed over a few years back, done way too much research on, because I was in a really bad place and got stuck on the thought that it was the most romantic and perfect setting to end my life.

Logan Paul’s insensitivity stemmed from his ignorance, his attempt to raise awareness for something he had no real understanding for. He took the devastating end of someone’s long, painful battle with himself and sensationalized it for his own personal gains. I can’t fathom the effect it will have on his audience who are struggling with or have struggled with mental illnesses.

But with the rise of every “villian”, a league of superheroes rise in response to fight the darkness, the natural corrective mechanism that exists within our world. I’m so heartened to see that this situation is no different, surrounding the controversy a flood of mental illness education, suicide hotlines and much-needed conversations.

Depression is something I had personally struggled with for a long time, before shit got serious and it led to suicidal thoughts. I had been saved by the most fortunate confluence of external and internal factors.

What I saw during my experience was the severe lack of general knowledge about mental illnesses in our society. As a result, the afflicted lack awareness and are held back by their shame to ask for help. Those around them lack the sensitivity to deduce that something is off and even if they did, didn’t really know how to help.

While it may seem that Youtube is dishing out all that bad press lately, there are good forces existing within the platform, content which spread the right kind of information and knowledge about mental health, incredibly helpful when you can’t stand the thought of leaving your bed.

Taking this opportunity to highlight some honest, authentic and amazing creators who have put the sun in my darkened room of tightly shut binds:

  1. Anna Akana – https://www.youtube.com/user/AnnaAkana
  2. Kati Morton – https://www.youtube.com/user/KatiMorton?pbjreload=10
  3. Dodie – https://www.youtube.com/user/doddlevloggle/videos
  4. Hannah Hart – https://www.youtube.com/user/MyHarto
  5. Shane Dawson – https://www.youtube.com/user/shane/featured


It’s a strange, liberating experience to be able to talk about my depression so openly. This time last year, it was a skeleton in my closet, a secret I had to conceal and even resort to lying to myself about for fear of accidentally disclosing it to those around me. That was me, taking ginger steps into the thickets, where the road of recovery began. Mentally unstable and fear ridden.

Now, it feels very much like I’ve reached a clearing and have conquered the forest, picked up essential survival skills and am able to see the light seeping through the canopy again. I’m surprised to find friends a few steps behind me, the same experiences I had thought existed only within my head, and that I had the ability this time to offer tips and most importantly, be there for them.

Mom hates my guts though.

She’s part of the generation that believes mental illnesses should be hidden from the normal world, survivor or not. Her concern was that my friends will move away from me and that people will see me differently now, possibly treating me with malice. Valid, I will say but those are merely insignificant side effects. I care more about being able to make someone feel less alone in their experiences (which I did in mine) and to keep in close touch with those who can accept me, despite my flaws and struggles.

The start of 2018 is proving to be an opening to something much greater than myself, an upheaval of my inner landscape, brutal honesty with myself, trust falling into love and diving headlong into new, uncharted territories.

*cue dramatic music*

Bring on the painful lessons.
Bring on the sweet rewards.


I’ll be here for it.

1. an erotic dream

Dreamlog: Tues, 5th Dec 2017


Last night, I dreamt about copulating at the back of an empty and dark train, chugging ahead to a destination unbeknownst to me.

My partner in love was a stranger, not modeled after anyone I know irl. We cuddled, foreplayed and had intercourse, his body curled up like a fist atop of mine which lay stretched out across five passenger seats while his rock hard projection wore me like a glove.

This exact sequence of sex occurred twice, once bareback, once protected by latex, both got me actual arousal, fire in my loins irl. The waves of sensations propelled me into consciousness, hearing my gasps of breath while squinting from the blue light of dawn seeping in through my curtains.

I fall back into slumber again, hoping for pleasure yet was denied a third coitus. The gravity of ramifications from unprotected sex begat an intense panic within me. I spent the remainder of my dream running around clinics, frantically searching for plan B pills, racing against the stranger’s imaginary sperms waggling their tiny tails, circling my helpless ovules like sharks.

Pharmacists after pharmacists, anxiety rising high with the threat of tsunami, the plan B pills were dangled beyond my reach with their $400-$500 price tags (this is false, irl 2 pills cost max. USD $100).

On the verge of breakdown, dejected, I returned home to find my mom at the door, holding up our used condom from the second act with a look on her face which I couldn’t complete reading before I awoke irl, now my 12th month of celibacy, relieved to be vindicated of all that worries and flashbacks from my harlot lifestyle 2016.

This also mean one thing: it’s the return of my libido after one year in exile!

Riding on the long tail of depression, anxiety rode atop, its tendrils entangled within the black fur of the dog. The harder you shake, the tighter it constricts upon the flesh, blood vessels squeezed up against one another. In contrast, tufts of hair growing further apart, ultimately breaking free to mingle in a haze of grey in the air.

In the fog, it is hard to decide what is real. Within the chamber of shadows, harsh words, criticisms, lies, hatred echo, bouncing off, amplifying one another. Yet every inhalation results in hairballs, futile grasps at the outlines of precipices to pull myself out of the pits.

I can’t decide which is better, depression or anxiety.